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Monthly loving 

on November 1, 2015

Each month I email Evan a letter detailing what happened throughout the month. It’s a long process because I upload all his pictures and attach videos as well. I love it. On the 24th of each month I send him the collection. My plan is to stop doing monthly at 12 months and move to maybe every 3 months. I don’t want him to open his email when I give him the password to thousands of emails. 

Last month, after our failed IVF I thought about telling him about how his father and I tried to give him a sibling, but I didn’t. I couldn’t. And I don’t know if I should. I feel like telling him now would help explain so much of what his life will be like. Why mommy and daddy have awesome jobs but can’t afford to do some of the things we’d like to because of the massive debt we have. I don’t know. Do you guys plan on telling your babes the story of how they came to be?  

Til then – here’s some super cute pics of my babe.  



9 responses to “Monthly loving 

  1. mamajo23 says:

    He is a cutie! I personally am not currently planning on telling my little guy the horrific IVF journey it took to have him and is currently taking place again in the pursuit for a sibling. I am open to changing my mind if it seems appropriate but for now it seems like a very adult conversation that might be an unnecessary burden on a kid’s mind. I don’t want him to share the worry of our struggles or the pressure of living up to something we fought for so long and hard. That being said- I can certainly see a situation where it might make sense for a particular family or child. Wishing you so much luck in your journey.

  2. What what a fantastic idea! I do plan on telling my son how we brought him into this world but I’ll also wait until he’s older.

  3. Caroline says:

    Adorable! We do plan to tell our kids about IVF etc. One of the biggest reasons is so they will know about their older brother. Sure we could leave out the IVF part but to me that is so much of the story. I don’t think there is a right or wrong way to go about it! I say just wait and see you never know what opportunities to tell him or not tell him might present themselves.

    • ksquared0710 says:

      That makes perfect sense. I think there is a different level of love and commitment that goes into having children when you have to take such drastic measures compared to others.

  4. akw62307 says:

    Awww soooo adorable! Love love love the pic of him and the dog. 🙂

  5. That’s a great idea! I do plan to tell and actually tell Truett all the time about our ivf even though he’s only 2 and has no idea what I’m talking about. 😉 I don’t want him to feel like I’m ashamed of our struggles or mad that it was so hard to get him. I also feel like it’s kind of a testament to how very much we love him and wanted to have him (and Levi ;)). I want both of my boys to know that the way the came to be was very special; each in their own unique way.

    All that being said…. it’s a personal choice and if you don’t feel like he needs to know, then I would trust your gut on that.

  6. snowla1 says:

    As an adult, it was a shock to find out my mum took 3 years to conceive after a late miscarriage. I do wish she had told me before I opened up to her about my own infertility. I feel like Id know her better if she was open about what shaped her in life. And of course I kept everything to myself not knowing that she had been there before!

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